By Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

People ask how is the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen different from other assessment questionnaires. An important difference is that the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen reveals the subtle communication patterns of abusive relationships. Identifying these subtle–and sometimes unconscious–interaction patterns helps you recognize what keeps the abuse dynamic going and, from here, what stops it.

Many people say they know they are in an abusive relationship, but don’t understand what maintains it. If that has been your experience, look at the subtle communication patterns of abusive relationships and you will gain insight into the mechanism that sustains this dynamic. Seeing this will give you what you need to stop the cycle and will insure your not engaging in another abusive relationship.

Let’s take a concept by way of example: When No Means Maybe. When you feel the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen questions addressing this concept from the core of your being, you see the abuse dynamic unfold.

For example, If s/he hears my “no” as a maybe and as a challenge to convert into a “yes,” we see a lack of honoring the preferences of the partner saying “no” and an obsessive compulsion to control the outcome of the exchange.

Further, if I’m aware that my “no” sounds like “maybe,” then I’m cognizant of my hesitation in not fulfilling his/her request. As I look further at that, I feel the basis for this hesitation. I see and feel the internal dialogue that supports the abuse dynamic.

Now we could go on from here, however if you are thinking of taking this test, it would be best for your discovery to come from within. That will be more meaningful and more likely to move you forward, as you will resonate with it from your own experience. Without this, the description could sound like a lot of psycho-babble. Trust me, it’s not. Domestic violence is quite real and is easiest to abort in its most subtle manifestations.

To learn more about the subtle communication patterns of abusive relationships through the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen, visit www.PreventAbusiveRelationships.com

©Copyright 2007 Dr. Jeanne King Consultants, LLC www.PreventAbusiveRelationships.com All Rights Reserved.

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