Your
Questions and Your Concerns
You might be thinking...
Why
don’t I just bring the abuse issue to a couples counselor?
This could be as dangerous as going
to your dentist for a pap smear. Marital therapy, couples
therapy and family therapy are improper methods to effect
therapeutic change for domestic abuse.
Marital and family therapy is suitable
for couples and family issues. As you will see, partner/spousal
abuse is not in this category.
In one of the free Bonuses
that comes with the Intimate Partner
Abuse Screen®, I explain in greater
depth why couples therapy is inappropriate for domestic
abuse intervention, why it does not—and cannot—end
battering, and how it can even be dangerous for the abused
partner.
You may have also
contemplated speaking with a divorce attorney.
This too can exacerbate your danger
if other steps are not taken first. It is extremely important
that you first get clear and grounded in your understanding
and strategic planning for your safety before expecting
a professional from one discipline to manage the issues
inherent in another profession.
And most important be mindful
that civil court is not the proper forum for domestic abuse
intervention. The reasons for this are also detailed in
your Bonuses that
accompany the Intimate Partner Abuse
Screen®.
Maybe I should talk
to my psychologist about the abuse.
Here’s the shocker!!! Psychologists
and psychiatrists are not trained in domestic violence interventions
as prescribed by domestic violence experts. (And even scarier:
they can be, and often are, manipulated in the therapeutic
process by the perpetrator to carry out his/her agenda.)
Now, I realize this is a strong statement to make given that I’m a psychologist of over 25 years, however it’s true,
My professional training and practice was in bio-behavioral medicine, in which I helped people with chronic medical disorders to ease their pain, mend their injuries and heal their illnesses.
Domestic violence education was not—and is not—part of the traditional curriculum for psychologists. It certainly wasn't for me.
My training in domestic abuse didn’t occur until my postgraduate, post personal experience of family violence. And I received my doctorate in psychology from one of the top universities in the United States.
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There are far too many nuances specific to domestic abuse intervention to expect proper management by people from other professions (as we have discussed). Let these other professionals manage what they are trained in, and proficient at, and use domestic abuse specialists for domestic violence. This way you get the best of both worlds.
Why not just get a
freebie abuse checklist on the Internet?
Many of the free checklists
focus on a few of the “popularized” more obvious signs
of abuse, rather than on the full constellation of symptoms
that constitute this syndrome—the 5
“red flags”—the 5 distinctive,
defining core characteristics.
I’m guessing you want to go deeper
in your understanding of what this syndrome truly is and
clarify for yourself if “intimate partner violence,”
as defined by the professional literature, is what
troubles you.
I’m also imagining that
you want your understanding of domestic abuse to be relevant
to your world, your inner world and your outer world. You
won’t get this personalization from a mere checklist
that does not evaluate your results, or analyze and interpret
your answers. Your ability to draw meaningful
conclusions becomes guesswork at best with
these freebie checklists.
Maybe
I don’t really want “understanding,” because
blindness is bliss.
While it is true, blindness
may feel like bliss; knowledge is
power!
If you know what you are dealing with,
you will be more effective in accomplishing the outcome
you desire. Whereas if you do not know what you are dealing
with, you can get blindsided by malicious maneuvers, paralyzing
positioning and vicious, devastating assaults…any
of which can turn your life upside down. Don’t let
that happen to you! Many people do not recover.
Find out what it is that troubles you
and you will be in a better position to remedy it. Attempts
at remedy without knowing what you are dealing with can
make your troubles worse, MUCH worse!!! Trust me. I speak
from my own experience and that of thousands of people I
have worked with over the years.
The good part here is that
there are sound, viable options for treating partner/spousal
abuse, if and when it is properly identified. The Special
Report that comes with your Free
Bonuses details what works and what doesn’t.
What
if my partner finds out that I took this test?
You will complete the entire test from
this website and obtain your results from here as well.
Then close the website AND the knowledge, along with your
understanding, remain in your head and heart—leaving
no paper trail behind.
Also, rest assured that your answers
to the test questions are not retained with your identifying
information. You will see we don’t even ask your name
on the test itself. We purposely do not capture this information
in combination so as to honor your personal privacy.
Should you use your credit
card in this transaction, be assured that I know the “partner-finding-out”
issue and safety implications for you like the back of my
hand. That’s why your transaction will be posted on
your statement as coming from King
Publications. We promise you it will NOT say Intimate
Partner Abuse Screen.
For more information on our privacy precautions for you, please click here.
We will offer you downloadable
Bonuses with an Intimate
Partner Abuse Screen® obtained
today, and you can choose to download these
e-books and Special Reports or not. That will be your decision.
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