Archive for October, 2012

Fighting in Abusive Relationships – Lies That Turn Into Verbal Attacks and Emotional Abuse

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

It is whatever you believe it is, until you don’t. And then, it is something else. That’s the nature of our beliefs and our reality. Our experience is what we think, not sometimes…every time!

Has your partner ever come to you and insisted that you are doing such and such…? And he says it as though it is fact. Yet, in your heart of hearts, you know his assertion not to be so.

You also know that the lie he is telling himself is the root cause of the conflict between the two of you. It’s not about you; rather it is between his belief and his experience.

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Warning Signs of Domestic Abuse – Communication, Conflict and Timing

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Have you ever noticed that when you are confronted with something that doesn’t hit you right (no pun on words), you naturally step back? Someone may ask you a question that you are not—in that very moment—wanting to discuss with that particular person.

So you honor your inner needs while also acknowledging theirs by letting them know you are willing to address their question or concern, but not in this very moment. Immediately, what happens?

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Verbal Emotional Abuse – Are You Hit Out of the Blue?

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Domestic abuse survivors notice how the verbal and emotional abuse to them shows up as though it came from out of the blue. In the moment the assault occurs they can’t connect it to anything that they are doing at the time. It’s like it comes “out of the blue.”

But, is it really out of the blue? I don’t think so. It may have absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with their current involvement with their abusive partner, however that doesn’t make it out of the blue.

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