Domestic Violence Abuse Injury – Has Your Partner’s Actions or Words Touched a Wound Within You?

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

We hear that any action that causes any arousal whatsoever beyond a natural physiological response occurs because the action has touched a wound within you. What does this mean and how is it relevant to domestic violence survivors?

Have you ever heard your abusive partner tell you that there is something wrong with you because you still hurt months or even years after he/she did such and such? We hear that question as though we are responsible for the feelings of being abused and somehow thereby—the abuse. However, I’m here to tell you that this conclusion is simply not true!

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Abuse and Addiction – What Is the Difference Between Sexual Abusers, Substance Abusers and Partner Abusers?

By Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

In working with people worldwide, I’m aware that there are as many varieties of sex addictions as there are sex addicts…(as the saying goes). And just because someone has a sex addiction, doesn’t mean they are a spousal abuser.

While it’s true that their sexual habits go hand-in-hand with sexual control, their addiction is about the sexual arousal, not the partner control. This is the primary distinction.

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Signs of an Abusive Relationship – Making Unilateral Decisions Without Your Knowledge or Consent

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

When your partner makes decisions that impact you without your knowledge or consent, he/she is basically acting on your behalf irrespective of your wishes. How do you feel about that?

If you don’t care that someone else is controlling some of your life choices and if the decisions made do not harm you, then it’s probably not a big deal. In fact, it could make life a little simpler because you don’t have to bother yourself with the details of things you don’t know or care to know. However, if the decisions made net consequences to you that are harmful, then chances are you will resent his/her making these decisions without conferring with you.

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