Domestic Abuse Help and Relationship Healing – Is the Abuse in Your Head?

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Many domestic abuse survivors simply want to know that their partner understands the abuse he/she perpetrated upon them. It’s as though that acknowledgment creates a connection from which recovery and change can happen.

The frustrating part, however, is that most domestic abuse survivors can’t get the understanding and acknowledgment that they seek. And without this, there is no compassion…no healing…no resolution…and no domestic violence recovery (so they think).

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Abusive Relationship Help – Why You Don’t Ask for What You Want in Abusive Relationships

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Why is it that the things you want the most are the hardest to ask for from your partner? In domestic abuse therapy, I see people come into treatment knowing what they want from their partner and intentionally avoiding directly asking for it from him/her.

It’s like…if they don’t ask, they don’t have to be concerned about the rejection they may feel in not getting what they request. So, instead they hide behind holding their fantasy that their partner should know “the want” and “the how” of their desires.

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Domestic Abuse Prevention – The Curse and the Glory of the Violence Trigger

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Batterers are often unaware of what sends them into their rants. And when the episode is over, it becomes a blur with the golden nugget left in the confusion.

The Curse of the Trigger

The golden nugget is the trigger, and recognizing it is key to domestic abuse prevention. In working with batterers, I’ve noticed that the clearer they are on the thoughts and feelings leading up to the altercation, the easier it is for them to break the cycle of abuse.

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