By Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Verbal abuse and emotional abuse may be the signs; NOT the syndrome.

It is friend, NOT enemy. It is not something to get upset AT, but rather something to grab your attention and seek to understand more.

I liken it to frequent awakening in the middle of the night, or to the chills or constipation.

A sleepless night may be a signal for you to ask yourself, “Have I been balancing my rest and activity properly. Chills could be a sign that your system is trying to rally up the resources to fight a little viral intruder. And constipation may be telling you that you’re don’t have enough fiber in your diet. You may require more vegetables and fruit.

If you only focused on the discomfort of the symptom, you may overlook its root cause. The same is true for emotional abuse and verbal abuse.

If you only focus on the hurt you feel in the face of it, you may very well miss the more important larger perspective, that being the underlying constellation of intimate partner violence.

Seek to discover the bigger picture in the face of these symptoms. It could save you your live, your children, your home, and MORE….

If you want help in understanding if the verbal emotional abuse you’re faced with is an expression of partner or spousal abuse as it is defined in the professional literature, visit http://www.preventabusiverelationships.com and take the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen, while it is still available as a self-administered test.

Your personal interpretive report will help you understand the emotional and verbal abuse. You will discover if the abuse is that of intimate partner violence. From here, you will know how to deal with it. Until then, it may be fuzzy and just simply hurt…like any other symptom.

Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. is a 25 year seasoned psychologist, author, speaker and leading expert in identifying intimate partner violence. Author of All But My Soul, Dr. King developed the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen, available online at http://www.PreventAbusiveRelationships.com, to help people properly identify abusive relationships and end the cycle of emotional abuse.

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