May 18th, 2012
by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
“When the name you call someone is factual, even though it is distasteful, is it name-calling?” asks a reader.
I’ve heard this question and I’ve seen it play out in domestic abuse relationship therapy. Here’s how it looks…
Steve calls his partner Linda a lousy housekeeper. She hears this as “name-calling,” yet from his point of view, the reference to his wife as a lousy housekeeper is descriptive.
In therapy, Steve insists that he is not being verbally abusive by referring to Linda as a “lousy housekeeper.” On the receiving end of his commentary is a wounded wife who declares that her husband is abusing her verbally.
To read the complete article, please visit Verbal Abuse Signs – Is Name-Calling Verbal Abuse or Descriptive Feedback?
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May 12th, 2012
- Couple in Their 50’s with Blended Family
- Upper Middle Class Traditional Marital Roles
Eve was a bright woman in her early 50’s married to Scott, a successful professional in his late 50’s. The couple enjoyed the finest restaurants and beach resorts. They had four children between them, and there was much love (as well as, classic blended family conflict) to go around for everyone.
From the outside looking in, they had it all. What was missing was as sense of personal safety for Eve. And with that gone, Scott lost his place in the both the marital bed and marital home. Despite their troubled waters, their love continued to surround them. Admittedly, Eve was dependently attached financially, and Scott emotionally dependent on Eve.
To read the complete article, please visit: Can Abusers in Denial Change? – A Case Study
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May 7th, 2012
by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Scott is a successful businessman with an unbelievable homegrown nightmare lurking in his garage, kitchen and bedroom day in and day out. He is a closet victim of spousal abuse…one of many abused men.
In the core of his soul, he knows his truth of being beaten down by his demanding wife’s ridicule. He knows he cannot fully please her, but he continues to try. Yet, no matter how hard his efforts, they fall short of her liking and he pays the price for this inevitable deficiency.
To read the complete article, please visit Help for Abused Men – The Serious Secret of Battered Men and Abusive Women
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