Can Abusers in Denial Change? – A Case Study

• Couple in Their 50’s with Blended Family

• Upper Middle Class Traditional Marital Roles

• Ongoing Verbal Abuse Escalating into Physical Abuse

Eve was a bright woman in her early 50’s married to Scott, a successful professional in his late 50’s. The couple enjoyed the finest restaurants and beach resorts. They had four children between them, and there was much love (as well as, classic blended family conflict) to go around for everyone.

From the outside looking in, they had it all. What was missing was as sense of personal safety for Eve. And with that gone, Scott lost his place in the both the marital bed and marital home. Despite their troubled waters, their love continued to surround them. Admittedly, Eve was dependently attached financially, and Scott emotionally dependent on Eve.

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Help for Abused Men – The Serious Secret of Battered Men and Abusive Women

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Scott is a successful businessman with an unbelievable homegrown nightmare lurking in his garage, kitchen and bedroom day in and day out. He is a closet victim of spousal abuse…one of many abused men.

In the core of his soul, he knows his truth of being beaten down by his demanding wife’s ridicule. He knows he cannot fully please her, but he continues to try. Yet, no matter how hard his efforts, they fall short of her liking and he pays the price for this inevitable deficiency.

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Healing From Abuse – How Boundaries, Berries and Bouncing Helped Me Heal

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

People worldwide repeatedly ask questions about how to heal after an abusive relationship. And I’m reminded of the 3 B’s: Boundaries, Berries and Bouncing.

Boundaries Begin with Self Boundaries

We’ve all heard of the importance of cultivating clear boundaries to offset the dysfunctional dynamics of abusive relationships. Yet, many people convince themselves that this means learning to say “no” to other people. My belief is that it all begins with saying “yes” and saying “no” first to oneself.

We are with others as we are with ourselves. And we train others how to be with us by the way we are with them.

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