by Dr. Jeanne King. Ph.D.
People in abusive relationships ask how do you regain trust after he/she has hurt me, hit me, cursed me… Many of these people genuinely long to rebuild trust in their compromised relationships. Yet, they claim that they are stuck. They simply don’t know how to trust their partner, again.
Domestic Abuse and Interpersonal Trust
It makes perfect sense that you see a person who hurt you as they show themselves to be with you, rather than expecting them to be, as you desire them to be. This is what is advised when one recognizes the obvious signs of domestic violence the first time in a new relationship.
In established relationships, issues of trust and history emerge. Couples wanting to recover from domestic abuse hold mixed memories of history and stumble on basic trust.
Why do they stumble? My sense is that the way they “try” to rebuild trust supports their lack of trust. And most importantly, they fail to master accountability after trust is violated. For example, take a look at Robert and Fran…Relationship Trust – How Do You Regain Trust in the Context of an Abusive Relationship?
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