Abusive Relationships – Why Do You Get into the Same Kind of Relationship, Again and Again?

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

I’m often asked the question, “Why do I seem to get into the same relationship, over and over?” This is a monumental inquiry and essential to all those leaving an abusive relationship.

Lesson Learned or Unearned?

You think that when you leave an abusive relationship, your lessons regarding domestic abuse are well learned. But then, you find yourself entangled with individuals that play many of the same control games as you experienced with the abuser that you left.

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Abuse and Divorce – What Role Will Your Psychologist Serve in Your Divorce?

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

You think your psychologist will help you in your family court abuse and divorce case, and your attorney expects your psychologist to help him/her. Unfortunately, your psychologist and your attorney do not share the same perspective on what that “help” looks like. Sound familiar?

I have seen countless cases in which clients are told by their attorneys that their therapist is essentially in place to be their representative before the court. And immediately this changes the dynamics of the so-called therapeutic relationship.

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How to Stop Verbal Abuse in Marriage – Who’s Responsible for the Verbal Abuse?

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Responsibility is a term we use in psychology that can create confusion in domestic abuse victim advocacy. For example, who is responsible for the pain of verbal abuse in marriage ? Is it the abuser or is it the domestic abuse survivor?

We are indoctrinated into believing that the perpetrator is always responsible for his/her battering behavior. As with any behavior, other people are responsible for their behavior and you are solely responsible for yours. Added to this are your thoughts, beliefs and feelings. You are responsible for your thoughts, beliefs and feelings; and others are responsible for theirs.

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