by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Have you ever noticed the subtle messages between and within individuals in abusive relationships.

Here’s a classic one (from the victim’s perspective):  You’re Okay and I’m Not

The net result of this thinking is the victim finds her/himself striving to prove to their partner that they are indeed okay. But unconsciously to match the batterer’s perceptions of the victim, she/he displays their “not okayness.” Sound familiar?

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