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Domestic Abuse Prevention – The Curse and the Glory of the Violence Trigger

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Batterers are often unaware of what sends them into their rants. And when the episode is over, it becomes a blur with the golden nugget left in the confusion.

The Curse of the Trigger

The golden nugget is the trigger, and recognizing it is key to domestic abuse prevention. In working with batterers, I’ve noticed that the clearer they are on the thoughts and feelings leading up to the altercation, the easier it is for them to break the cycle of abuse.

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Domestic Violence Abuse Injury – Has Your Partner’s Actions or Words Touched a Wound Within You?

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

We hear that any action that causes any arousal whatsoever beyond a natural physiological response occurs because the action has touched a wound within you. What does this mean and how is it relevant to domestic violence survivors?

Have you ever heard your abusive partner tell you that there is something wrong with you because you still hurt months or even years after he/she did such and such? We hear that question as though we are responsible for the feelings of being abused and somehow thereby—the abuse. However, I’m here to tell you that this conclusion is simply not true!

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Healing Verbal Emotional Abuse – Has Your Abusive Partner Apologized AND Still You Hurt?

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

“Your partner’s words are verbally and emotionally abusive. Your partner acknowledges regret for using these hurtful words with you. Yet, you still hurt. Why is that?” Ever wonder?

We see this all the time. One party feels wronged by the other and an apology does not evoke healing in the injury of the abused. Some people will say that the apology wasn’t sincere, and others will say the injured hasn’t healed from within. In abusive relationships, it is often both.

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