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Why Domestic Abuse Survivors Believe the Verbal Emotional Abuse Showered Upon Them?

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

Verbal emotional abuse is as damaging if not more damaging than physical abuse. If you have been there and had your fair dose of it, you may know why.

Verbal abuse and psychological abuse are typically dished out routinely over time. And in time, the messages sustain themselves. For example, take the case of Mary Lou.

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Verbally Abusive – What Is the Difference Between Verbal Abuse and Poor Conflict Resolution Skills?

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

“What is the difference between poor conflict resolution skills and verbal abuse?” I am frequently asked this question by readers worldwide, even though they don’t necessarily use the term “poor conflict resolution skills.”

The essence of the question is, “How do you distinguish between an individual who is a classic verbal abuser from someone who is uneducated in resolving interpersonal conflict?”

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Relationship Trust – How Do You Regain Trust in the Context of an Abusive Relationship?

by Dr. Jeanne King. Ph.D.

People in abusive relationships ask how do you regain trust after he/she has hurt me, hit me, cursed me… Many of these people genuinely long to rebuild trust in their compromised relationships. Yet, they claim that they are stuck. They simply don’t know how to trust their partner, again.

Domestic Abuse and Interpersonal Trust

It makes perfect sense that you see a person who hurt you as they show themselves to be with you, rather than expecting them to be, as you desire them to be. This is what is advised when one recognizes the obvious signs of domestic violence the first time in a new relationship.

In established relationships, issues of trust and history emerge. Couples wanting to recover from domestic abuse hold mixed memories of history and stumble on basic trust.

Why do they stumble? My sense is that the way they “try” to rebuild trust supports their lack of trust. And most importantly, they fail to master accountability after trust is violated. For example, take a look at Robert and Fran…Relationship Trust – How Do You Regain Trust in the Context of an Abusive Relationship?

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