“Will my husband change,” she says. Domestic abuse survivors worldwide ask this question, over and over.
I think there is only ONE person who can answer this question. And that person is your husband himself. No one can tell you that someone in particular will or will not change. That is completely up to the individual himself.
Now the other question is can a batterer change? Or, do abusers change? That is a completely different question.
I have thrived in the “change” industry/business/art for three decades. Through this experience, I have observed stunning change in people during psychotherapy. So if you are asking someone like myself with my background, then you are more likely to hear about the prospect of change.
It is the children of domestic violence by proxy that are the true casualties of this social disease. Usually they don’t know who they are, until it is too late.
They live in the shadow of their domineering parent, until the day comes when they awaken to the fact that they do not now who they are. They spend their lives playing into the hand of their abusive parent just to keep peace, all while believing that it is for the good of themselves and for the family. These are the children of domestic violence by proxy.
