Many people ask, is this Control or Love? The five core characteristics of domestic abuse and intimate partner violence show control Vs. love. http://www.domesticabusesupport.com
If you think battered women are stuck in their mess, you haven’t seen “stuck” until you have met a battered man. To me, it is so very sad. I attribute their being as stuck as they are to the fact that they have little to no social support and resources to assist them in ushering themselves to safety as do battered women.
Have you ever noticed how emotional abusers dive in with such gusto seeking that element of vulnerability within you? And once found, they appear to revel in what looks to be like a personal conquest.
For all practical matters it is a personal win for the emotional abuser. This very vulnerability of yours is used over and over and over again to keep you in your place during a moment of relationship combat.
