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Abusive Relationship Help – Winning, Whining and Losing in Abusive Relationships

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

“When you pressure me, you lose me. And instead you get yourself and the illusion that you won me over.” Sound like a familiar abusive relationship sign?

People in abusive relationships spend an inordinate amount of time in a tug-of-war dance. He is insisting on her seeing, doing or being life as he wants, and she struggles within herself to hold her own or cave in.

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Healing from Domestic Abuse – The Creation and Implication of Fuzzy Versus Firm Boundaries

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

People treat you the way you teach them to treat you. If you request and insist on your boundaries being honored, they will be. On the other hand, if you allow others to determine whether to respect your limits or not, then expect your boundaries to be treated as they wish to do so.

This is an important lesson for anyone who has ever been in an abusive relationship, either with a parent or with an intimate partner. It’s a lesson that requires clear and focused integration and application, yet this lesson is all too often ignored.

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Abusive Relationship Help: Healing the Two Sides of Boundary Issues in Abusive Relationships

by Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.

People say that domestic violence victims have serious boundaries issues…which they do. And so do the perpetrators that they live with. It comes with the territory of being in an abusive relationship.

You might think of it as two people having a tolerance for the actions of the other. Or, it can be seen as operant conditioning in play wherein one person conditions the other to surrender their boundaries for safety in the relationship. Abusive relationship help typically recognizes these boundary issues.

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