Your son is in an emotionally abusive relationship and you don’t know how to break the news. You see the signs like writing on the wall, yet you realize he can’t read. He is blind to the controlling abuse dynamic that he lives with his girlfriend.
You fear that their “love” will continue to grow along with his deafness, blindness and tolerance to the abuse. Then, the day will come when he is gone. He can only be, feel, think and do as she approves. All else that he was simply isn’t anymore.
Divorce litigants suffering from battered woman’s syndrome are prone to be his story in divorce, rather than being their own. And standing in that mess invariably is a sentence for life in hell.
In helping battered mothers during divorce, I have discovered how to inspire their stepping out of his story and into their own. These are the women who find their voice. They get their truth before the court. They create clarity and elicit compassion from court agents and public bystanders…and in the end, they win.
