"Recognize an Abusive Relationship, Instantly. And Learn the 5 'Red Flags' to be Aware of..."
Discover doctor's secrets for recognizing & stopping partner/spousal abuse
...and learn what keeps emotional verbal abuse going and what stops it.
From the Desk of Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Executive Director of Partners in Prevention
If you've ever wondered or asked the question, "Am I in one?" ("Am I in an abusive relationship?"), I encourage you to read the following page very carefully!
When it comes to the topic of abusive relationships, often I hear questions like these:
"My boyfriend pushes me to the wall and braces me there. Is this cause to end it?"
"My partner's verbal abuse makes me shake and I don't know how to deal with it. How do you know when it has gone too far?"
How do you know if you are in a dangerous relationship?
"Is this abuse?" That's a question we ask again and again, even when we have the answer from the core of our being.
Yet, your partner continues to say, "It's in your head," "You just bruise too easily," or how about this one, "If you weren't so sensitive..."
And when all these fail to convince or confuse you, he/she claims, "It was an accident," caused by you. "It's your fault." "You made me do it." "You made me say it."
And then when the abuse, that is the "elephant under the carpet," is not being covered up, you're showered with promises of change...of peace...and more.
It can be very confusing.
Deep down inside, your question lingers. Is this a dangerously abusive relationship?
And with this question unanswered, your pain multiplies. The outbursts haunt you and, more often than not, they magnify...while remedy gets further and further from your reach.
And then, to add insult to injury...
All too often, what we do to treat "it" (like marriage/couples counseling) aggravates it. And when push comes to shove, what we do to arrest "it" has the potential to inflame it.
All awhile, many people living domestic abuse remain perplexed in, and by, it. Is it the hitting, the verbal licks, the mental manipulations? What is it?
What is domestic abuse, spousal abuse, intimate partner violence?
You may be wondering why listen to me?
I have been helping people identify intimate partner abuse and family violence for nearly a decade. And I serve as a consulting expert on both civil and criminal domestic abuse cases.
The first book I wrote on the subject, All But My Soul, became a college textbook in criminal justice. Since this time, I've published over 100 articles on identifying, ending and healing domestic abuse.
I formed nonprofit Partners in Prevention, dedicated to helping healthcare providers identify domestic abuse and cultivate skills to help patients who are victims of violence. We also have a family violence prevention and intervention program.
I am a seasoned psychologist of 27 years. And this background gives me the benefit of understanding the psychosocial dynamics that bind abusive relationships as well as the mechanics of healing relationship violence.
Knowing "It" from the inside out
But all of my knowledge about the dynamics of domestic abuse and healing abuse doesn't come from the hundreds of books I have read or from the people I have helped. It also comes from the fact that I, too, lived the nightmare of domestic violence.
So I know it from the inside out, as well. And I know how hard it is to get the answer, Am I in a dangerously abusive relationship?
I truly understand how important it is for you to clearly and accurately identify what you are struggling with at home and in your relationship. And I know the benefits this will yield to you and to your entire family.
There are answers to your questions
What if you knew the cause of the ongoing verbal and emotional abuse...such that when it comes at you, you know how to deal with it.
Imagine knowing how to avoid getting hooked into meaningless fights at home.
You notice that your health and well-being return when the ongoing stress is at bay.
You're more productive in your work and your accomplishments are ever so satisfying.
You know how to treat what troubles you, and you choose the right intervention because you know what you're dealing with.
You have the answer to that pressing question, Am I in dangerously abusive relationship? You understand what intimate partner violence is. You know what partner/spousal abuse is. You know the signs of emotional and verbal abuse. And you have insight into what stops it.
In as little as 15 minutes, you can have all of this anonymously, discretely and confidentially from this website right now.
The Intimate Partner Abuse Screen® will take you by the hand and give you answers to your burning questions, instantly!
What is the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen®?
The Intimate Partner Abuse Screen® is a tool I developed to help people recognize domestic abuse when it lives in their lives. I was inspired to develop this screening tool by audiences I addressed, coast to coast, who repeatedly asked me to help them help others see what's so obvious-looking from the outside in.
My primary audience consisted of healthcare professionals. Physicians and nurses nationwide wanted to know, "How do I shine light?" for patients who are being abused.
"It's an excellent tool for assessing domestic violence". Teresa Nirider, RN, Public Health Nurse, WY Department of Health, Family Nurse Partnership Program.
"I found the Screen test informative. It allowed me to gain insight into my relationship with regard to the issue of abuse." Anonymous
"Giving it a name, helped me understand what was bothering me and most important helped me deal with it." Anonymous Survivor and Therapist
"Since taking the test, I don't feel crazy. I realize the crazy-making stuff is not about me. What an eye-opener! Thank you." S.A., Washington DC
The Intimate Partner Abuse Screen® is a private, user-friendly, quick, accurate screen for intimate partner violence, commonly called spousal abuse, intimate partner abuse, domestic abuse or domestic violence.
It hones in on the dynamics of intimate partner abuse, unclouded by other relationship issues. Through its specialized focus, the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen® brings the abuse issue into view making it easier for you to detect should it be there.
And if your experience is indeed NOT intimate partner violence (that is, if it doesn't fulfill the diagnostic criteria for intimate partner violence), that will become apparent as well.
Often times, people think what they are experiencing is partner or spousal abuse when they are really encountering the symptoms that are a byproduct of substance abuse or poor communication or coping skills.
Then they seek remedy for their problem and the undiagnosed problem lingers and compounds the other problem.
Knowing the distinction between substance abuse and partner abuse makes it possible to select the appropriate intervention for one's circumstances.
I can't emphasize the importance of this enough! You wouldn't want treatment for one condition if you indeed suffered from another condition, would you?
Then there are those of us who are indeed entangled in domestic abuse yet can't, or won't, recognize it because we don't think we identify with the issue. ("It's something that happens to other people!")
I remember seeing a domestic violence poster in which the woman had a black and blue eye, and I convinced myself that I wasn't dealing with "domestic violence" because I didn't have one of those.
Funny thing is I had already suffered from a cervical spine injury in which it took four years for me to fully recover-an injury resulting from a domestic assault. (The things we tell ourselves to keep safe are often the very thoughts that keep our wars alive.)
You can end your confusion about domestic violence and emotional verbal abuse, once and for all!
1) Personalized interpretive report objectively identifying intimate partner abuse should it be in your relationship, or warning signs if they are in your relationship. And of course, on the other hand, letting you know if intimate partner violence is not in your relationship.
You can stop wondering, stop guessing and start understanding, treating and ending domestic abuse today. The moment you have a definitive answer to that burning question, Am I in a dangerous relationship?, all of your resources can cooperate in bringing on the remedy you so long to have.
Knowing where you stand relative to your questions about relationship abuse is easier done through the information of an objective interpretive report because it keeps your internal battle at bay.
Whereas, if you seek to get your question of whether you're in a dangerous relationship from a checklist without an interpretive report, you are left to spiral into internal rationalization and justification, item by item.
It is extremely important to put the natural self-serving defenses to rest when you are seeking to know if you're in an abusive relationship. Getting a definitive, objective diagnosis can put you in the "stop-guessing" mode and into the "start-treating" mode in moments.
2) The Intimate Partner Abuse Screen® identifies the subtle communication patterns of abusive relationships as well the gross interaction patterns. And it shows you the inner and outer manifestations of partner abuse, helping you see...
subtle communication and interaction signs as well as the obvious signs
the internal affective aspects as well as the external behavioral symptoms
the actions, feelings and innermost thoughts associated with abuse and lastly,
it seeks to capture the vantage point of both the abuser and the abused
The more you understand about how this syndrome lives in your life, the easier it will be for you to stop it before it spirals out of control. You do not have to become one of the people who say, "I was glad when he hit me and broke my jaw, because then I knew what I was dealing with."
You can identify intimate partner abuse and all of its verbal emotional abuse signs long before it spirals into physical abuse and long before it spirals out of control. You and your family do not deserve to be a causality of domestic violence.
3) Readily distinguish what is yours and what is not yours. By revealing the underlying dynamics of domestic abuse, the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen® will show you what's within your control and what's absolutely not yours to control.
This knowing makes it possible for you to direct your energy to what you can change. ...And most important, helps you surrender responsibility for what you can't change.
Shouldering blame for your partner's behavior or feeling you earned and deserved "it" adds insult to injury. And more serious is the fact that this is the key factor to keeping abused partners entrapped.
When you clarify what is yours and what is not yours, you open the door for real, authentic and lasting change. Your health and well-being are an arms reach to be returned to you.
It did for me; it can for you. Your restful sleep, normal digestion, healthy elimination, mental clarity, stamina, and even your inner well-being can be yours to enjoy.
4) The online administration of the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen® is designed to be completely confidential, discrete and anonymous.
We do not retain your personal information in conjunction with your test answers. That's right you heard me, we do not know your responses to the questions and so your identity and personal issues remain private.
There is nothing left behind for your partner to trail unless you choose to down load the bonuses we make available for you. Your test once done is done, as both the questions and results are on our server, not yours.
We understand the "what if my partner knows I'm taking this test" issue and have built in layer upon layer of protection for you in this regard.
So you are not only getting an accurate and objective answer to your question "Am I in an dangerously abusive relationship?," you can trust your inquiry and what you discover is between you and you ONLY!
What this test is not. It's not just a laundry list of what abuse looks like. It's not a personality test or psychological profile.
...Rather, it is more of an interpersonal and intrapersonal profile. And it shows you how abuse lives in one's life. It helps you determine if intimate partner abuse is actually in yours. The Intimate Partner Abuse Screen® will help you understand the pieces of the mysterious partner/spousal abuse puzzle and its emotional verbal abuse components.
"It gave me confidence and tools to help people recognize relationship violence." L.N., Social Worker, Department of Social Services, Rapid City, SD
"Sending my sister to the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen® gave us a way to talk about what she couldn't see before." C.M., California
14 Benefits you get from the
Intimate Partner Abuse Screen®
Provides you with a clear recognition and accurate understanding of partner/spousal abuse and its "red flags." You will discover the 5 distinctive, defining core characteristics which allows you to definitively answer the common question: "Am I in an abusive relationship?"
Reveals the underlying dynamics of domestic abuse, in addition to the outward symptoms, helping you see that your partner's verbal, emotional and/or physical attacks toward you are actually not about you.
Unlocks the essential steps toward remedy because the vital information revealed in taking this test gives you clear understanding of what keeps partner/spousal abuse going and what potentially stops it.
Immediate results thanks to 34 "yes" or "no" questions that are focused and to the point, giving you meaningful insights instantly.
Reveals the traits and behaviors of intimate partner abusers which means you will see the difference between partner/spousal abuse and your partner's unique personality characteristics.
Uncovers the outward signals of intimate partner victimization so you see the behavioral signs of anyone who is in an abusive relationship, making it easier to recognize within yourself.
You will identify the inner thoughts, feelings and interaction habits of living in an abusive relationship thanks to the way the test uncovers personal internal signs of partner victimization.
Identifies the subtle communication patterns of partner/spousal abuse, which opens doors for alternate ways to interact with your partner as your unconscious dialogue, while being abused, becomes apparent.
Private and confidential because you are the only person involved in your taking this test. It is "user self-sufficient."
You can take the test with peace of mind, knowing it is discrete and safe thanks to its online administration and printable evaluation. The Intimate Partner Abuse Screen® questions and your responses are not placed on your computer.
The instructions for taking the test offer clinically proven steps to gain personal insight and direction, which means simply taking the test moves you through the steps of a potentially life-changing therapeutic process of self-discovery.
Audio guidelines by seasoned psychologist Dr. King to help you access your inner voice, giving you entry into your own insights and personal answers.
Interpretation and personalized evaluative report answering your question, "Is this intimate partner violence?"
You will get the full picture defining partner/spousal abuse which helps you focus on what corrects it rather than how it expresses itself, thanks to the interpretive results showing the shocking truth of what domestic abuse is and what it is not.
Your questions and your concerns:
By now you may have some
questions. You might be thinking...
I have no questions, take me to the test now.
Why we decided to make the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen® available to you.
Partners in Prevention provides continuing medical and nursing education on domestic abuse to healthcare providers. We help physicians and nurses nationwide to both recognize domestic abuse and develop clinical skills to assist patients who are victims of domestic violence.
In providing this training, we learned that most people don't know what battering is or the damage it can actually do. When audiences in our programs are asked the question "Would you know if you were in a dangerous relationship?", consistently 90% of the people acknowledge they would not know if they were in a dangerous relationship.
Far too often, we hear people say, "If he had hit me, I would have known much earlier" ...and could have avoided further pain and destruction.
With the privacy of the Internet, one can find answers to questions that they may not ask in other forums. You can learn about dangerous relationships and their relevance to you anonymously, without being ashamed or embarrassed by your inquiry.
Our hope is to make this education easy, comfortable and affordable to anyone who longs to know...
"Am I in an abusive relationship?"
"Am I entangled in intimate partner violence?"
"Is this domestic abuse?"
The Intimate Partner Abuse Screen® will help you identify intimate partner violence even before you get hit. Your understanding of this dynamic could save you-your life, your children, your job, your savings and your home.
What is the bottom line?
How much for this information and understanding?
We have some good news for you! Since there is no printing costs for the online Intimate Partner Abuse Screen®, you can have the online test and Your Interpretive Report for much less than it would cost if it was in hard copy AND you can have it immediately from this website. Your investment in this life-enhancing, and for some life-saving, information is now only $19.95!
And that's not all. With your Intimate Partner Abuse Screen®, you will also receive the following Free Downloadable Bonuses (valued at 55), immediately available after you complete your Intimate Partner Abuse Screen®.
E-Book, entitled The Dangerous Myths & Shocking Truths about Domestic Abuse, which contains 30 pages of Powerful, Insightful Information on Intimate Partner Violence, including:
Why Couples Therapy Is Dangerous with Domestic Abuse Victims
How Emotional Abuse Maintains the Threat of Physical Abuse
Identifying Two Types of Batterers: Cobras and Pit Bulls
Why an Abused Partner Stays in an Abusive Relationship
What Keeps the Cycle of Intimate Partner Violence Going
How Intermittent, Positive Reinforcement Binds Abusive Relationships
How Learned Helplessness Maintains the Cycle of Violence
How the Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde Personality Sustains the Abuse Cycle
Themes Common to Family Violence and Judicial Abuse
12 Myths and Insightful Special Reports on the Facts about Domestic Abuse, for example:
Myth 1 Men who abuse their partners are uneducated, socially inept and outwardly aggressive. Learn the Facts...
Myth 2 Women often provoke men into battering them and deserve to be beaten. Learn the Facts...
Myth 3 Alcohol and drug abuse cause abusive behavior. Learn the Facts...
Myth 4 Batterers cannot control their anger. Learn the Facts...
Myth 5 Women who stay in abusive relationships are crazy; they must enjoy being abused, otherwise they would leave. Learn the Facts...
...and many more facts & myths about intimate partner violence.
3 NEW Eye-Opener Special Reports on:
Domestic Abuse and Self-Esteem: Conditioned Disassociation
Abused intimate partners do come in all shapes and sizes, and most definitely there are some themes characterizing them. Some people will tell you low self-esteem is one of these characteristics. But what came first: the chicken or the egg? This Special Report sheds light on the relationship between domestic violence and self-esteem, and addresses how to overcome compromised self-esteem in, and after, an abusive relationship.
Emotional Abuse: It's Not About You
Some psychological emotional abuse is so subtle; it blind-sides you before you have identified it. And you remain overlooked, devalued and confused. This Special Report looks at psychological emotional abuse and tells you how to deal with it and what to do when confronted with its signs.
The Psychophysiological Illnesses of Domestic Abuse
Migraines, irritable bowel syndrome, essential hypertension, insomnia, chronic anxiety are just a few of the ongoing complaints of domestic abuse survivors. And it's not surprising! This Special Report shows you why domestic abuse survivors suffer from these conditions and suggests what they can do to heal these stress related conditions.
You can have the answers to your questions now and ease your discomfort today!
We are so confident that the information and insights you obtain from the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen® and Bonuses will benefit and help you, we offer a 100% money back guarantee.
Don't wait a minute to order at this low price. The list price for the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen® is $29.95. You can have your Intimate Partner Abuse Screen® now for only $19.95.
And also know we rotate the Free Bonuses that come with the Intimate Partner Abuse Screen®, because we want you to have what is current in our Bonus library. So if you have your eye on any of the Bonus E-Books or Special Reports, I'd grab the offer today. There is no guarantee that the same Bonuses will be here tomorrow.
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The proceeds from sales on this website support the work of Partners in Prevention, a 501(c)3 public charity dedicated to helping individuals, families and healthcare professionals to recognize and end domestic abuse.
If you have the hunch or curiosity about partner/spousal abuse in your intimate relationship, you can't afford not to have this information, nor can you afford to wait.
The sooner you know what you're dealing with, the sooner you will effectively deal with it to bring about the changes you long. Whether your intention is to remain in your relationship or leave it, you will be on your way to accomplish your goals.
May there be peace and well being for you and yours.
Partners in Prevention
Jeanne King, Ph.D.
PS. Remember 1 out of every 3 women will encounter domestic abuse. Know the signs before it spirals out of control. Your knowledge is your most powerful asset.
You can help yourself, or a loved one, recognize domestic abuse before it spirals out of control and become a partner in domestic abuse prevention today!
Obtain your Intimate Partner Abuse Screen® for Only $19.95
and all of the downloadable FREE Bonuses from our secure server.
The proceeds from sales on this website support the work of Partners in Prevention, a 501(c)3 public charity dedicated to helping individuals, families and healthcare professionals to recognize and end domestic abuse. Thank you for helping to prevent domestic abuse.